Find your truth

Try not to hate someone after being hated.

Because haters have a way of getting you entangled into hating. How will you get out of it?

Don't start gossiping as you are gossiped about.

Gossipers have a way of getting you entangled into gossiping. How will you get out of it?

Don't talk meanly with others after being treated meanly by them.

Mean people have a way of entangling you into being mean. How will you get out of it?

Don't stop loving after not being loved. 

Some people have a way of leaving others bereft of love. How will you start loving again?

Don't start cheating after being cheated. 

Cheaters have a way of entangling you into cheating. How will you become honest again?

Don't stop being yourself after being made to feel lesser with self-doubt.

Some people have a way of making you question yourself. How will you find yourself again?

Don't stop doing the things that you really like because someone told you that it isn't what you should be doing.

Some people have a way of telling what you shouldn't do, whether they care or know what you really like. How will you get out of it?

Find who you are by taking a few steps back when needed. See where you left your real self and pick up from there. Connect the dots to never lose your true self again. You need to try it again!

The disgrace that everyone faces

 Do you feel really ashamed because of something that happened? Whether you were alone or with some others, the pinch of humiliation can he enormous. The way it makes you cringe and makes you feel so little is really sad. These experiences are such that they make you feel secluded from others where you feel ashamed and disconnected from others. However, is that really true?

Do others not get humiliated? Have you had a wardrobe malfunction, a fall or any type of a bad experience that no one who has lived or lives on this planet has never gone through? Think again! Because there is hope and there are scores of people who have come across and come to terms with painfully embarrassing things that they were not able to, or even required to share with any other soul. 

Trying to get over bad experiences is important as it makes life easier and your self-respect restored. How do you do that? Face it! 

Face your stories. Don't tell them to others (yet) if you don't feel up for it. Negotiate the possibilities of others going through similar incidents. See if it was the end of the world. Was it? Apparently it wasn't. Cause you are right here, reading this. Now that you know it didn't destroy your physical self completely, come to your emotional self.

How deep does this hurt? On a scale of 1 to 100, where would the hurt be? 50? 75? 99? 101? Now think of what worse could have happened. Trust me, situations can always get worse. But it didn't. It did the damage to your mind, reputation and self-esteem and now you have to be through with it.

There is nothing you might want to do since nothing you do now might change the event in the past. However, if you make things better with carefully made changes to whatever might have led to the evil scenario, you will get closer to finding closure. 

Get closer to the event, tell yourself that you are ready to face it in your mind again and are ready to let go. When you do this, you will have the courage to let go. Because no one has a right to hold any incident against you. It happened to you, or perhaps other people also. However, what happened to you is for you to get over. You don't have to try an erase the memory. You kist have to face and skip it from bothering you again. 

It's not that experiences will stop happening to you or others who have been pained by it. So, why not take it head on and move on by carefully thinking about it and taking it in your stride? When we all face it from time to time, then why single yourself out as if you are the worst affected from among your friends, family and neighbors?